Girls and boys
Maureen Dowd wrote a column recently about why men marry below their social station and seem to ignore women who are their intellectual equals (she's counting herself in that category, I guess). Now, I love Maureen Dowd. She's "on my list" (if I can make a Friends reference). I think she's married, so perhaps she's not bemoaning her own fate. However, this column interested me.
Now, I'm not going to pretend to be any expert on women. Hell, I'm not an expert on men, either. I've been married for almost eleven years, however, so I know some things. I love my wife, and she's at least my intellectual equal, if not my superior. Dowd says that men aren't interested in stimulating conversation when they marry, they just want a woman who's going to serve them. Well, maybe. I'd love to have a woman who serves me, but I'm not stupid, and my wife and I help each other out. Maybe I don't fit Dowd's criteria, one of which is that the men are "ambitious." Maybe I'm not ambitious enough.
Dowd also mentions that even men who aren't at the top of their profession expect to be served. So it's not that these men are the elite and expect everyone to serve them. She seems to think it's a male problem. Maybe. I wonder, however, if Dowd might want to look in a mirror.
Like I said, I'm no expert. I love women, and think smart women are way sexy. In fact, intelligence and personality goes a long way. I've known a lot of women who are not classic beauties, but I think they're beautiful because they are smart and fun. However, a lot of men have been hard wired to think that all that matters are looks. I don't know where they get it from: Society? Women's magazines that claim you're not desirable unless you look perfect? Who's to blame around here?
I also think Dowd should know better. Doesn't she know about men? Most men are idiots. I know a lot of them. I am sometimes one of them. She mentions that men secretly want their mothers. Duh. It's freaky and sick, but that's the way it is. My mother is visiting us right now, and she automatically starts cleaning up. I had to warn her away from touching the dishes (yes, yes, I do the dishes in our house -- save your jokes). Who wouldn't want a woman who automatically starts cleaning up? And then you get to have sex with her!
Women have a lot of power in this world. If they keep giving it up to men, men are going to keep taking it. Maureen Dowd might have a legitimate beef, but women also have to realize that it's all about them. If they don't, men are going to keep ditching smart, successful women for bimbos. Discuss!
Now, I'm not going to pretend to be any expert on women. Hell, I'm not an expert on men, either. I've been married for almost eleven years, however, so I know some things. I love my wife, and she's at least my intellectual equal, if not my superior. Dowd says that men aren't interested in stimulating conversation when they marry, they just want a woman who's going to serve them. Well, maybe. I'd love to have a woman who serves me, but I'm not stupid, and my wife and I help each other out. Maybe I don't fit Dowd's criteria, one of which is that the men are "ambitious." Maybe I'm not ambitious enough.
Dowd also mentions that even men who aren't at the top of their profession expect to be served. So it's not that these men are the elite and expect everyone to serve them. She seems to think it's a male problem. Maybe. I wonder, however, if Dowd might want to look in a mirror.
Like I said, I'm no expert. I love women, and think smart women are way sexy. In fact, intelligence and personality goes a long way. I've known a lot of women who are not classic beauties, but I think they're beautiful because they are smart and fun. However, a lot of men have been hard wired to think that all that matters are looks. I don't know where they get it from: Society? Women's magazines that claim you're not desirable unless you look perfect? Who's to blame around here?
I also think Dowd should know better. Doesn't she know about men? Most men are idiots. I know a lot of them. I am sometimes one of them. She mentions that men secretly want their mothers. Duh. It's freaky and sick, but that's the way it is. My mother is visiting us right now, and she automatically starts cleaning up. I had to warn her away from touching the dishes (yes, yes, I do the dishes in our house -- save your jokes). Who wouldn't want a woman who automatically starts cleaning up? And then you get to have sex with her!
Women have a lot of power in this world. If they keep giving it up to men, men are going to keep taking it. Maureen Dowd might have a legitimate beef, but women also have to realize that it's all about them. If they don't, men are going to keep ditching smart, successful women for bimbos. Discuss!
posted by Greg | 8:25 PM
2 Comments:
I wish I was a bimbo. It would be so much less stressful to clean up after my man and look pretty. I could stay at home and pop out progeny and be perfectly satisfied with the status quo.
However, I'm not. Luckily, I married a man who loves my non-conformist attitude and the fact I can hold (and sometimes dominate) an intelligent conversation. Does he want a servant slave sex kitten? Abso-fricken-lutely.
But men are not evil repressors. People who know their own power repress others. Historically, the people with power have been men. Do you honestly think that a woman with power wouldn't use that power to her advantage to find a man to support her needs and whims?
Burgas is right. Many women propagate their fate by not owning the power they possess. Until they do, "ambitious" superficial men (and even intelligent, quasi-profound ones) will continue to seek those who can promote them in their conquest to rule the world - or at least a household!
---Michelle
Obviously not all men are evil repressors. I think about this occasionally, and I wonder if it's a generational thing, with younger guys being more "enlightened," because most of the "good" guys I know are younger, but then I hear about guys in their 20s and 30s who treat women like servants. It's how you're raised, I guess. It would be nice if both men and women got their heads out of their asses occasionally.
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